Finally Un-Stuck

Stuck. Don’t know. Can’t decide. Feels awful. Stuck is a nerve-wracking place.  And takes a ton of energy.  So much energy, in fact, that it’s hard to find the oomph to do anything other than be stuck. People who are stuck often face some kind of big decision or life change.  And they torment themselves with, “Is this the right choice? What if I make a mistake?” That is the stuck place.  Can’t move forward for fear of doing something wrong, and can’t... [Read more]

Got Envy?

I’m just going to say it. Some of us are frozen in time and space because of jealousy. Some of us are so gripped with envy that we grasp and sabotage and act in ways unprincipled, just to get what we “want.” The ick fairly drips when it comes to jealousy and envy. Yet, it’s totally human and I’ll bet you that we’ve each run up against jealousy, the fear that you’re going to be betrayed and lose something important at the hands of someone else, and envy,... [Read more]

Busy But Not Productive

One thing that absolutely drives me nutty is busyness. Busy, busy, busy – say it fast enough and you buzz like a bee. Which is, apparently, quite a good thing, as we often say, “Busy as a bee.” And maybe we get a buzz from all that busyness. When we’re busy, we belong to the collective hive of others who are busy, too. Buzz, buzz, buzz, we’re all in motion together. Let me ask you this: are you busy for the sake of being busy, or are you actually doing something? What... [Read more]

Your Wish Is My Command

Big happy thanks to each of you who took the time to answer my short survey this week. There’s still time if you’d like to give me your thoughts, so click here to go to the survey. I learned a lot from you all. First, more of you would like an opportunity to work with me. You’d like lower cost programs, designed to help you with your career or your business. You’d like self-paced programs. You’d like to see me collaborate more. Which is really cool, because that’s... [Read more]

I’m Sorry, I Can’t

Let me tell you about Meg.  She’s smart, she’s kind, she’s hard-working.  She’s always willing to pitch in and help out. She’s great. She’s also extremely stressed, crazy busy and frazzled. There are never enough hours in the day. She can’t do anything fully, or calmly, or right. She’s past maximum capacity, verging on overload. Every. Single. Minute. Of. Every. Single. Day. Her biggest problem?  Is it her job, her kids, her husband, her aging mom? Guess... [Read more]

More On Money

Last week’s post Money Changes Everything got a lot of attention. Comments, tweets – many of you wrote me directly to share your own personal fears around money. I figure I hit a nerve. So, I gave a free class on Friday called Your Money Mindset. Here’s the download link: Money is a hot button issue for a bunch of reasons, and we talked about some of them during the class. First, money is shrouded in secrecy. Remember when you were a kid? Did you know how much your dad made?... [Read more]

Money Changes Everything

  Let me shoot straight with you. Most of your biggest problems stem from fear. And most of your biggest fears boil down to money. Will I have enough? Will I have enough to do all the things I should do?  Buy the things I should buy? Will I fit in with my peers if I don’t have $150 jeans or regular Botox injections or trips to Disney World? What if I have too much, and don’t fit in?  What if I become everyone’s piggybank? What if I lose everything?  What would people think? We... [Read more]

A Generous Spirit

This week, I was going to write about Dan Pink’s new book about motivation, Drive. Then, I also considered writing about Brigid Schulte’s article in The Washington Post, about a busy working mom’s search for leisure time. I also thought about writing an arch, sassy essay on New Year’s Resolutions. But I couldn’t write those posts. They seem so inconsequential. Because I can’t get Haiti out of my mind. The scope of the loss there is so hard to grasp. The only... [Read more]

Loving Change

It’s funny. I am usually the cock-eyed optimist who writes about how to create more happiness and joy in your life and your work. I often tell you to focus on what’s working, and do more of that, and do less of the stuff that drains you or makes you unhappy. I will tell you that’s The Secret of Life. However. Today, I’m telling you that sometimes, to make a change, you have to dwell in what really stinks. Today, I’m suggesting that you have to wade right in and bathe... [Read more]

Happy New (Fill In The Blank)!

OK, I live with teenagers. And teenagers are amazing, wonderful, vexing creatures. They are truly experimenters – trying on this idea, that sweater, this hairstyle, that belief system. I love them. Because they remind me to think outside the box and change things up, too. Let me ask you this: Why is it, just because we started a new calendar year, that people do all sorts of planning, resolutions and intention-setting? (”Calendars are arbitrary and made up by some ancient Romans anyway,... [Read more]

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