The New Rules of Work – Part 1
The rules of work have changed. And if you’re still operating under the old rules, you will fail. Got your attention, have I? The Old Rules The old rules went something like this: you take a job in a hierarchical, structured, stable organization with a solid bricks and mortar business model - and stay there for thirty-plus years, moving up the ladder and getting pay raises according to the rules, until you retire with a pension and benefits provided by the kindly Big Daddy that is the... [Read more]
Filed Under: Career Coaching, Getting Unstuck, Happier Living
Who’s A Mom?
“Mother” is one of those words that we think we understand, yet “Mother” has a hundred different meanings depending on who’s using or hearing the word. Mention “Mother” to Joan Crawford’s children, and you might get a wire hanger in the ear. Mention “Mother” to others, and you’ll get a honeyed story of love, kindness and connection. And then there are the women who are not mothers, yet mother children every day. Teachers, aunts,... [Read more]
Filed Under: Authenticity, Clarity, Happier Living
Failure to Execute
You don’t know what to do. Oh, you’ve got plenty of ideas about what you could do. About what’s possible. About your dreams. Or maybe you’re really, really busy – pursuing a hundred leads at once and reeling from all the potential paths available to you. But somehow nothing’s really happening. Nothing’s clicking. And you’re either starting to panic, or, conversely, starting to think that being where you are isn’t really so bad. You can... [Read more]
Filed Under: Authenticity, Career Coaching, Getting Unstuck
What’s Important To You?
In the last couple of months I’ve written about getting un-stuck by choosing growth. About how you can never make a mistake when you are centered in integrity. About how you can, singlehandedly, turn around a challenging work environment – and how to leave a toxic job. I’ve written about creating a new way to measure your own success. And now, the single most important thing you need to know. Ready? The most important thing you need to know is what’s most important to... [Read more]
Filed Under: Authenticity, Getting Unstuck, Happier Living
Your New Yardstick
I have started and stopped this blog post seven times. I have typed, back-spaced, deleted and select-all’ed myself into a frenzy. Because I know what I want to say, but can’t seem to find the way to say it in 600 words. Maybe it needs fewer words, less typing, less snarky pun-filled humor. Let’s try simple, shall we? Ahem. To be happier, make your own yardstick to measure success. Not your mom’s measuring stick, not your dad’s, not your suck-uppy cousin Kevin’s,... [Read more]
Filed Under: Career Coaching, Happier Living
Remembering
It was a day in April. Pretty day. Cool day. Down in the mountains, they had snow flurries. For some reason or other, my son was home from high school and we decided to run out to a favorite lunch spot for a bite to eat together. Just as I left the house, I heard there had been a shooting at Virginia Tech. Like so much news, it registered on my consciousness for a flash and was gone. By the time we reached the restaurant, the full story was being reported. I lost my appetite. That day,... [Read more]
Filed Under: Authenticity, Managing Change
When Your Job Is A Soul-Sucking Hellhole
In last week’s post, Love Your Work? (What Are You, Crazy?) we looked at how you can single-handedly turn around a difficult work situation. Yes, I said, “single-handedly.” And I meant it – when you first look to yourself and change (for the good) what you can – then, you can absolutely, positively, single-handedly turn around a difficult situation. I’ve seen it too many times to doubt that it’s a successful strategy. And if you are doing the right thing,... [Read more]
Filed Under: Career Coaching, Clarity, Managing Change
Love Your Work? (What Are You, Crazy?)
I got an email this week from a lovely 25-year old reader – she asked: Since you work with a lot of professionals and others in the work force – what’s your experience? How many people out there really love their jobs? I wonder if I was being too negative in thinking that there’s no such thing as the perfect job or that I’ll never just LOVE going to work every day. Any advice to thoughts along these lines? This is a great question, whether you’re 25... [Read more]
Filed Under: Career Coaching, Getting Unstuck, Uncategorized
The Integrity Thing
A few weeks ago I talked about how to get Finally Un-Stuck – remember? “People who are stuck often face some kind of big decision or life change. And they torment themselves with, ‘Is this the right choice? What if I make a mistake?’ That is the stuck place. Can’t move forward for fear of doing something wrong, and can’t go back due to the space-time continuum, so… stay stuck. There’s only one way to break through the muck and get un-stuck. And that is... [Read more]
Filed Under: Authenticity, Career Coaching, Getting Unstuck, Uncategorized
Happy Virtual Birthday To Me
When I thought about all the ways I could possibly celebrate my upcoming 50th birthday – big blow out party, inspiring foreign travel, expensive jewelry, a weekend in a double-wide – it occurred to me that I could never, possibly gather all the people I love and who make me laugh in one space. Friends far afield does not a party make. Unless. Unless I did a Virtual Birthday Party! Via teleconference! And invited everyone to call in and give me advice about turning fifty! So, it’s... [Read more]
Filed Under: Happier Living
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