Coming Clean


I have to admit it: I love the TV show “Clean House”. I love all the mayhem and foolishness. Just when you think they can’t possibly find a more cluttered, junky mess — they do. It’s just unbelievable enough to be real.

Makes me feel a bit better about what I consider my own clutter issues, to tell you the truth. But what I really love about the show is seeing the chaos and unhappiness give way to clarity.

If your clutter issues are threatening to make you a candidate for the show, here’s how to get a jump on it and begin to achieve clarity in your own life:

Survey the mayhem and foolishness: Walk around your place with a notebook and a pen. Write down specific cluttered areas — like that hall closet. Or inside the front door. The junk drawer(s) in the kitchen. Or your teenager’s room. All you’re doing is making a list — so breathe easy and write it all down.

Ask yourself why: Look at just one clutter area. Why does stuff collect inside the front door? What kind of stuff is it? Why is it there? Where’s the best possible place for the stuff? Do you need a solution — like a place to put coats, or shelving for backpacks or a basket for mail? If it’s more complicated than that — “I can’t bear to let go of my mother’s things and face the fact that she passed away eight years ago” — you may need to be gentle with yourself as old feelings (buried in all that clutter) come to the surface. But don’t let those feelings keep you from doing something with momma’s bric a brac.

Start to deal: Today is today. Holding on to stuff doesn’t bring back yesterday, honey. Yesterday’s gone. Bring forward the memories and let the stuff go. You are who you are today, and all that clutter keeps you firmly in the past — and unable to truly enjoy this moment, right here, right now. Don’t I sound just like Niecy Nash? I’m getting me a flower for my hair, y’all.

Have a yard sale: Before you say, “It’s more trouble than it’s worth” let me just point out that in uncertain economic times wouldn’t it be nice to turn your unused clutter into useful dollars? That’s all I’m saying. If the idea of a yard sale is too daunting, see if you can organize friends or neighbors to join in one humungous event — and follow it up with a party. After all that hard work, you deserve some fun!

Redecorate: The final step on Clean House is to make over a chaotic room into something pleasant, modern and…clean. Whether you go for full redecoration a la Mark Brunetz or something more modest, mark your de-cluttering accomplishment with one physical symbol of the change you’re manifesting. Get a pretty vase, or a lovely painting, or a wind chime and let that object serve to remind you of the life you’d like to live — clutter-free.

I recently undertook this process myself. I asked: “Where’s my greatest source of clutter-pain?” Answer: “My office is a disaster, full of papers and books, mayhem and foolishness.” Why did I have all that stuff on the floor, on the coffee table, on the couch? ‘Cuz I had no where to put it. Why? Because the closet in my office was full. Of what? An old filing cabinet that I didn’t use and papers dating back to 1993 (I am ashamed to admit).

Two hundred pounds of paper shredded and recycled later, the filing cabinet given away, shelves added to the closet, I am pleased to announce that my office is fabulous. It took two weeks, but it’s exactly what I need it to be — and the pain is long gone.

So, where’s your biggest source of clutter-pain? Why does it exist? What can you do about it?

You can channel your own inner Niecy Nash — put a flower in your hair, get some tough-love going, and get your Clean House on. Uh huh.

Get Yourself Organized


Just can’t seem to get organized? Feeling a bit out of control? A little swamped?

Join the club.

And, it’s a mighty big club.

Organization may the single most problematic task for most of us, according to my completely unscientific poll of clients, friends and family. Oh, and the mailman. So, how about some tips on how to get organized?

Let me be frank here: if other people think you are disorganized but you are fine with how you live, then it’s not a problem. For you. Of course, if you have 25 years of old newspapers stacked ceiling high, 85 cats and 43 cases of yams stacked in untidy pyramids throughout your house, you might want to consider that there’s a problem… But it’s up to you.

If your disorganization makes you late — paying bills, keeping appointments, forgetting to take medication — or prevents you from being truly happy, then you need to make some changes. Here’s how:

Identify the problem. Take a notebook and walk around your home, or your office, and make a list of the areas that need attention. Be specific. “Hall closet” or “supply closet”, rather than “whole house” or “everything”. “Calendar” or “paying bills”, rather than “time” or “money”. Got it? Once you can identify the problem areas, you can make a plan to begin to attend to them. Cherry-pick the easiest task first, and if none of them seem easy, then pick the area where getting organized is going to have the biggest impact.

Break each problem area down into teeny-tiny little steps. For instance, take “paying bills”. What’s the optimal bill-paying process? Let’s write it down. OK. The mail comes. What do you have to do? Get the mail out of the box. Next? Sort the mail. Pull out the bills. Then what? Put them in a file folder? Pay them on the spot? What feels best for you? No, not throwing them into the trash, as much as you’re tempted. (Hey, I know your type.) Remember, what you resist persists, so if you hate paying bills and put it off, and off, and off, the problem will only get worse. So, make it as easy and painless as possible. And if you really, really can’t get the task done, outsource it — to your spouse, your eldest child, or hire a part-time personal assistant.

Tackle one problem at a time. We get overwhelmed when we try to pay the bills, organize the files, recast the calendar and write a strategic plan — all within the same 20 minute time period. Setting yourself up for failure, that is. Take one project at a time (that pesky “Hall closet”) and give yourself a realistic time frame for finishing it — even if that realistic time frame is three weeks. Remember, if you hit the wall on your project, that’s OK. Just keep on making teeny-tiny steps toward progress every day and soon enough the daggone closet will be tidy. That’s when you get to execute the very best tip:

Give yourself a reward. Honest. Give yourself something nice for having to do such a boring/nasty/unpleasant task. Make it something you look forward to — a solid hour of Guitar Hero, for instance; or, a long chat with your best friend. Link the reward with the action, Pavlov-style, and you will begin to look forward to knocking other tasks off your list.

The reward I love is free time. I figure that if I knock a project off thoroughly and don’t have to come back to it, I can then loaf absolutely guilt-free. Honey, talk about an incentive! Find the reward that means as much to you and you’ll find tackling overwhelming organizational tasks a snap.

Email Triage


Week before last I wrote about In-box Management and while many of you liked my highly figurative example of dealing with the spam between your ears, most of you would like tips to deal with the actual deluge of email you have to face on a daily basis.

I am glad to oblige. Let’s get started.

The problem with email is twofold. First, there’s too much of it in your in-box (we’ll call that “inflow”) and, second, you have to decide what to do with it (“outflow”).

In medicine, “triage” is used to identify and manage the most acute cases, those in need of immediate attention. Guess what? Triage can also be used to manage your email effectively. All you have to do is identify what’s most important, and deal with that first. Sounds simple enough, right?

Here are three tips to triage Inflow:

1) Have three different email accounts. One is your primary business email account. This is the account on your business card, and the one you give to professionals with whom you network. Your second account is for personal use — this is the one you give your mother, your aunt Suzy, your layout cousin Frank and others. The third account is the one you use for online ordering, online games, online quizzes, whatever. This third account is your spam magnet, and will draw most of the junk. Then, you can spend quality time on your business email, some time on the family email and little or no time on the junk email.

2) Use email folders. Many email programs will allow you to change your settings so that email from a specific sender, or containing specific keywords, can be automatically directed into a folder. For instance, if you are working on a project with Tom Smith, you can specify that all messages containing his email address go into a Tom Smith folder. That makes staying on top of the project a breeze! Likewise, you can make all email containing Words You Would Have Gotten Smacked For Using In Front Of Your Mother go right into the trash. Setting up a priority system with your email folders can help you spend time on what’s acutely important, and save the marginally important for another time.

3) Don’t read your email all day long. It’s a trap to have your email browser open all the time. If you are old enough, you remember when fax machines first hit the office. In my office, every time the fax machine signaled it had an incoming message the entire team gathered around to watch it come through. Who would it be for? What would it say? How important I would be if the fax was for ME! Over time, the novelty of faxes wore off (thank goodness), and we settled down to work. Today, the omnipresence of incoming messages means there is little time to actually think, or create, or evaluate. I suggest you check your email first thing in the morning, mid-day, at the end of the day. I know, I know — you work in a culture that prizes always being available. Well, that’s an awful lot like standing around watching a fax come in. Think of it this way: setting boundaries around reading your email gives you time to actually work!

Now, to Outflow. In my Stress Management class, I give a series of questions to ask when feeling stressed about a task. The very same questions can be applied to your email: Can I eliminate this? Can I do it another time? Can someone else do it?

Back in the dark ages (even before the fax machine, if you can believe it) there was an organizational school of thought best summed up by the phrase: “Touch it once.” The idea being that a letter came in through the in-box on your desk (how quaint) and the goal was to touch it once — read it and decide whether it needed to be filed, thrown out or acted upon. If it needed to be acted upon, you decided that before you put the paper down — you wrote someone else’s name on it and put it in the out-box, you called someone on the telephone to deal with it, or you wrote a new memo suggesting a meeting to settle the matter. Whatever you did, you didn’t let paper hang around your in-box.

That’s a good rule of thumb with virtual paper, too. Don’t use your email in-box as a filing cabinet. Read the message; decide to do something with it or delete it; delegate it to someone else; call a meeting; print it out and post it anonymously on the employee bulletin board. Whatever you do, just touch it once, do something, and let it go.

The immediacy of email creates a false sense of importance. Only you can triage your email — only you can decide what’s important and needs immediate attention, and what’s less critical and can wait. Many things clamor for your attention during the day — honey, if you don’t decide what matters, the clamor decides for you.

And the clamor doesn’t always know what’s best for you.